What to expect…
We will spend about 30 minutes talking about why we created Modern Marriage, our training, expertise and experience, exactly how the program works and who it’s for. At the end you can ask us any questions you have about the program!
Actually, I just want to buy the program
Because the issue isn’t the person you’re married to, it’s the marriage.
Modern Marriage is the course for you if…
- You find yourself fighting over stupid shit all the time
- Everytime one of you brings up going to therapy, the other person freaks out because they don’t want to “share” with a total stranger
- You’re always fighting over who does what and one person feels like they’re doing everything where one feels like they’re the hero for doing something once
- You used to really love each other, but after having kids, you feel more like business partners and less like lovers
- One of you is doing a lot of inner work and growing, and the other person is stuck.
- You’ve fallen in “default” roles around taking care of the house and kids
Actually, I just want to buy the program
Now our (short-ish) story:
We met at Williams College when we were 21. Sarah was a pearl wearing, collar popping, party planner and Jonathan was the starting fullback on the football team. We spent our early twenties in New York City. Jonathan went to medical school while Sarah worked a brief stint in marketing and then started her coaching practice. We were independent, travelled all the time, went out with our friends four nights a week and had sex in public bathrooms.
Our love was easy… and hot.
We got married and moved to San Francisco. Jonathan started residency, Sarah’s company started to grow. We barely saw each other, but we were happy.
We got pregnant, and shit got real. With Jonathan working 90 hours a week, making below minimum wage, Sarah stepped up to be the primary parent and primary breadwinner, while devoting herself to personal and spiritual growth – which Jonathan refused to join.
We became the couple who fought on date night, making the other diners uncomfortable.
Most nights out would end with Sarah crying in the bathroom. The amount of resentment, competition, exhaustion and stress wrecked us.
It was either couples therapy or divorce, so we made the time despite Jonathan’s rigorous schedule. We uncovered that we were playing out outdated dynamics, filling roles that didn’t suit us, and were showing up as our best selves for the outside world, and the worst ones for each other.
We tossed out the outdated model of marriage, and created what we call a Modern Marriage based on equitable sharing of responsibilities, incredible romance and each of us being dedicated to being our best selves.