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The New Marriage Paradigm – Replay

How to bring more fun and passion into your marriage… even if you have kids and have been together forever.


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About The New Marriage Paradigm

We believe the issues most couples face are because our culture and expectations around marriage are outdated.

In our work and in our lives, we frequently meet couples that are made of two smart, successful, progressive people, but their marriage is stuck in an old paradigm — full of bickering, unclear expectations, strange power dynamics, inequitable sharing of labor, and very little romance.

So we asked ourselves, why are all these amazing people in average (or even shitty) marriages? This is what we decided:

The issue isn’t the person you’re married to,
it’s the marriage.

Marriage holds a whole set of rules and expectations — all of which are unspoken and blindly adopted because we are taught to not talk about the marriage. In fact, the old paradigm of marriage teaches us that good marriages never need to be worked on or spoken about — and we know from experience that couldn’t be further from the truth.

The New Marriage Paradigm Workshop is for couples who are ready to consciously say “Ok, what we’re doing isn’t really working”, and to consciously create a marriage that is full of passion, fun, and equality. They are ready to go from things being fine, mediocre, resentful, tense, and a bit boring at times… to be in a relationship that is romantic, grounded in teamwork, and with a shared vision for creating an incredible future.

You’ll get a lot out of the New Marriage Paradigm if…

  • You find yourself fighting over stupid shit all the time.
  • Every time one of you brings up going to therapy, the other person freaks out because they don’t want to “share” with a total stranger.
  • You’re always fighting over who does what and one person feels like they’re doing everything whereas one feels like they’re the hero for doing something once.
  • You used to really love each other, but after having kids, you feel more like business partners and less like lovers.
  • One of you is doing a lot of inner work and growth, and the other person is stuck.
  • You’ve fallen in “default” roles around taking care of the house and kids.

About your Guides:
Sarah Jenks + Jonathan Brajtbord

First, the creds…

Sarah Jenks has mentored and coached thousands of women over the past 12 years in cultivating a purpose, an identity, and a sacred life.

Her work has been featured in Forbes, Parents, Health and Success, to name a few. Sarah is the founder of Holy Woman, an international community and program dedicated to healing patriarchal brainwashing and helping women be their true, fully expressed selves in the world.

 Dr. Jonathan Brajtbord is a widely published, board-certified Urologist and Integrative Medicine Practitioner, and the founder of Men’s Work, an online program dedicated to men’s physical, emotional, and relational health.

Now our (short-ish) story:

We met at Williams College when we were 21. Sarah was a pearl-wearing, collar-popping, party planner and Jonathan was the starting fullback on the football team. We spent our early twenties in New York City. Jonathan went to medical school while Sarah worked a brief stint in marketing and then started her coaching practice.

We were independent, traveled all the time, went out with our friends four nights a week, and had sex in public bathrooms.

Our love was easy … and hot.

We got married and moved to San Francisco. Jonathan started residency, and Sarah’s company started to grow. We barely saw each other, but we were happy.

When we had kids, all of the passion and love drained out of our marriage. We became the couple who fought in fancy restaurants, forcing Sarah to leave and cry in the bathroom.

Sarah became the primary parent and primary bread-winner which created overwhelming resentment. Jonathan worked 90 hours a week in his surgical residency and felt disconnected from the family, deeply unappreciated, and very distant from Sarah.

During this time, Sarah was also on a spiritual journey which Jonathan refused to join, making us feel like we didn’t understand each other anymore or have a common dream for the life we were supposed to be creating together.

But we caught ourselves before it was too late, and devoted a lot of time and money to healing our marriage. The journey to creating a marriage based on sharing of responsibilities, incredible romance, and us each having strong purpose and self-care was long and expensive, so we wanted to create a condensed, direct path for couples who want more out of marriage.